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A Journey (through the backdoor)
The Aneros provides profound sexual gratification, but, not instantaneously. You must train your body to produce pleasure internally. This involves fine-tuning the muscles and nerves in your pelvic region and using mental focus to amplify the resulting sensations. In traditional sexual activity, external stimulation from a partner or masturbation creates the conditions for pleasure. Your brain responds as a part of a cycle of arousal, causing your pelvic muscles to contract rhythmically, further enhancing your pleasure. In Aneros stimulation these muscles learn to spontaneously contract, allowing you to experience pure pleasure from the inside.
Seasoned users of the Aneros regard this learning process to be a "journey." While it is true that some guys will be on a “fast track” and arrive at the Super-O in a small number of sessions, the majority will take more time. Ten years after the introduction of the Aneros and with more than sixteen thousand posts on more than three thousand topics on the Aneros forum, it is still unclear what accounts for this disparity.
Accepting the process as a journey is the first step. No doubt, it is the destination that motivates us, but the path that gets you there is just as important and must be treasured as well. It is full of delightful pleasures, eroticism, self-discovery, healthful benefits and feelings of well-being.
The Keys to the backdoor
There is no master key to the Super O. There are a series of keys to get you to and through the final Super O doorway. Your journey will be a process of exploration and discovery; these keys will be your guides.
- Clean the slate. Put out of your mind all of the thought processes by which you achieve a traditional penile orgasm.
- Open yourself up to different forms of sensations that do not involve any direct penis stimulation whatsoever.
- Remove the burden of expectation that plagues many men and leads to frustration.
- Understand that one never forces this to happen, but encourages it by generating certain stimuli and responding to them naturally.
- Make the conscious decision to enjoy each session for what it IS as opposed to what it isn't. There are many wonderful sensations on the path. Don't forget to smell the flowers along the way!
- Learn about the Milestones and see the positive in the smallest achievements.
- Start your Aneros sessions aroused.
- Experiment with focused abdominal breathing. Inhaling into your lower belly creates a diaphragmatic expansion that can be useful in generating and sustaining sensation.
- Encourage involuntary anal twitching by paced gentle anal contractions.
- If you experience twitching, lie back and enjoy it! The twitching by itself can often provide a kind of a high that should be savored.
- Respond to twitching with gentle echo-like contractions, again you can't go back into the penile ejaculatory model for cues here. More, stronger, faster contractions are not necessarily better.
- While twitching, make sure that the perineal abutment tab (P-tab) is centered on your “sweet spot”.
- Be observant and patient, work in subtle and gentle ways and allow things to develop.
- Focus on the sensations of arousal; arousal is itself arousing.
- Put it all together. It is involuntary anal twitching coupled with proper tab placement with an aroused user that starts the neural feedback loop that generates larger and larger pleasure waves that ultimately becomes the total body orgasm. Exploration and discovery is all about finding the harmony between contraction, breathing, focus and arousal. Play with it and enjoy!
P-waves and rewiring
Pleasure waves or P-waves are the waves of sensation that we feel as a result of stimulation and/or arousal on the non-ejaculatory pathway. The manners in which such waves are generated, manipulated and manifested vary from one individual to the next. Because of this it is often said that all Aneros users are “wired “differently. P-wave amplification is similar in principle to the concept of simple harmonic motion that is seen in the action of a playground swing. With a swing, when a small force is applied at a precise time, the swing is compelled to go higher and higher. The same can be said for the Aneros experience too as using stimulation that is responsive to (echoes) sensation can often increase the magnitude of P-waves. Many users regard this as the final key that unlocks the cascading effect to the Super-O that we all desire.
The Aneros is a device that can generate, focus and amplify these “pleasure waves” to an even higher level still. When properly positioned the Aneros is put in direct contact with the anus, perineum and prostate. In short, it facilitates a sensory synergy as all pleasure centers are stimulated simultaneously. Once one has “crossed-over” there is very often little energy needed to create further Super O’s a contraction, a little bit of mental focus with the Aneros taking care of the rest. In time there is even a “learning” that takes place on neural level as ones body become accustomed to regenerating this effect. This is most commonly spoken of as “rewiring”. This can only be accomplished through experimentation and practice. The good news is that once you have discovered your own rhythm, generating a Super-O can become as easy as having a traditional (penile-centered) orgasm.
Cleaning your rectum
If one's rectum is full, it is strongly recommended that it be evacuated prior to the beginning of an Aneros session. Large amounts of waste can obstruct the insertion and substantially reduce the mobility of the Aneros. Performing a bowel movement at least an hour before your planned session allows time for your colon to draw back a substantial portion of fecal matter that may have been left in the rectum. If you still feel the need to clean out your rectum, you should wait approximately a half hour after your bowel movement to perform a flush.
Cleaning out with an enema prior to an Aneros session is optional. While not strictly necessary (particularly if you are regular and know when you are empty) nonetheless it may reduce the anxiety of those who strongly associate a mess factor with anal play. Some find the process a pleasant experience in its own right while others regard it as a "turn-off". If you are of the latter opinion, you may want to consider incorporating more fiber into your diet in order to make your elimination more predictable. For a slightly humorous approach to cleaning out see "How To Clean Your Ass".
For cleaning of this sort, one essentially wants to achieve an evacuation of the rectum only, without involving the entire bowel. If at all possible one should avoid inducing peristalsis (rhythmic bowel contraction). If the bowel becomes irritated and begins contracting, you're more or less committed to clearing out your entire system, which can be time consuming and sometimes unpleasant (cramping). The idea is not to completely fill the rectum with fluid, but to loosen and help flush out any material that's present.
- use 4-6 fluid ounces of warm tap water ONLY.
- lubricate your anus and the enema nozzle to facilitate insertion.
- perform the flushing while lying on your side or kneeling on all fours
- sit on the toilet for the cleansing itself
- repeat if necessary, but avoid overdoing it!
- follow-up with a nice hot shower, giving the region a rinse off. (Showering is also a great way to relax prior to an Aneros session.)
Here are a few different devices you can use, all available at a drugstore:
- a bulb type or Higginson rectal syringe.
- a Fleet™ enema bottle. But... don't use the enema solution. Refill with warm tap water.
- fountain type enema. This is really just a hot water bottle that has been cut open at one end.
If you use a fountain type, the enema bag is hung and gravity drives the liquid through a tube to the nozzle. The tube has a shut off clip so you can control the flow. For many the fountain type is a good way to go, in that it gives you a bit better control the amount that you take in. If you do decide on this type you should know that they usually come with a douche nozzle as well, (which shouldn't be used for this purpose). Make sure to use the enema tip that is short and smooth. Also be certain that the tube is free of any kinks before you start, and that you bleed the line of any air by making sure that water runs free through the tube, then stop the flow with the clip. The bulb type devices on the other hand offer greater convenience (easy to prepare and clean).
Wash all the equipment well before and after use and make sure everything dries completely before storage (to prevent the growth of bacteria and mold). In so far as the safety of enemas is concerned, they have been used since the time of the ancient Egyptians for health purposes. It is said that they started the practice after seeing the sacred Ibis (a bird with a long thin bill), take in water and expel it into their hindquarters. So long as one keeps the practice occasional, and is careful to limit the amount of fluid that is taken in, there shouldn't be any problem. You are cautioned to use care and be exceedingly gentle with any internal cleaning regime to insure the delicate membranes of the rectum are not injured and the natural flora in this part of your digestive tract is not disrupted due to the introduction of toxic chemicals or pathogens. Of course if you have any health concerns you may want to consult with your doctor first.
Setting the Stage
The setting for your Aneros sessions should be comfortable and suitably private as you will not wish to be disturbed for the period of time that you spend with your massager. Sessions will generally range from an 60 to 90 minutes or more for beginners. Intermediate and advanced users may require much longer. Since Aneros use is a physical activity, a short, whole body stretching regime prior to a session may prove beneficial to accelerating the relaxation process and preparing you for a pleasurable full body orgasm.
While being adequately hydrated is important to overall health, you don't want to interrupt a promising session to get up and urinate (though you can do so even with your Aneros inserted). It is recommended that you avoid drinking any fluids in the hour preceding your planned session. Immediately before inserting your Aneros you should urinate to completely empty your bladder, this way you can rest assured that "urge to pee" feeling is naturally generated by the Aneros. You can relax through this feeling (it will soon fade away) without worry of accidentally urinating all over your bed (you can further insure yourself against any accidents by providing a couple of folded towels underneath you during your session.
You should make sure you have all the accessories that you are likely to want or need readily at hand. Those items being: one or two towels (one covering the bed), some water (for refreshment), your lube and the Aneros cleaned and ready to go. If you plan on lying on your back, provide a covered pillow for purposes of support. If you are inclined to making loud moaning or groaning sounds it's often helpful to have a "silencer". This is optional of course, but some living situations may require it. An extra pillow or a rolled up washcloth or face towel works well.
It is essential that this preparation be done beforehand as you want to avoid cooling down your arousal by having to interrupt your session once it is underway.
There are several different aspects to being open and ready for this new experience. The first of these involves setting aside some the traditional notions about how to achieve an orgasm. The second involves feeling sexual. There's no doubt about it that the Aneros is greatly enhanced by being aroused prior to its introduction.
Recognize however, that there will be times when you are not ready for this experience such as when you are not appropriately aroused, feeling tired, feeling ill, or preoccupied with the cares of the day. None of these things in themselves would normally stand in the way of a traditional penile orgasm, but when it comes to the Super O, you really need to “feel 100%” in order to give it the space to develop. Likewise, when one is too aroused it can present a problem as well. It sounds like a contradiction, but being too aroused can lead to impatience, and impatience is a “deal breaker.” Why? Because it can cause you to ignore the subtle sensations that should be the focus of your attention. Ask yourself, “Am I up to this tonight?" or "Am I trying too hard?" In the end, making this simple determination will save you time and frustration.
If it so happens that you're not ready for the Super O there's always the Super-T. Skip right to a traditional penile orgasm (with the Aneros inserted). The Aneros can turbocharge a traditional orgasm (ejaculation). Such orgasms are typically far more intense, produce a greater volume of ejaculate, are of longer duration and are much more satisfying! So if you are not up to a Super O, enjoy a Super T and have no guilt about it. After all, tomorrow is another day.
Both physical and mental arousal are essential components for generating a Super-O. These forms are not exclusive of one another. In fact there is a great deal of interaction between physical and mental arousal in an Aneros session, with one type amplifying the other.
Physical arousal involves direct and indirect stimulation of erogenous sensory nerves. A good starting place for physical arousal and a prelude to any Aneros session is a good hot shower, (it's a good place to get squeaky-clean too). Begin by pulling your butt cheeks apart and directing the shower stream at your anus. The water creates wonderful sensations. With a small, soft washcloth, begin some gentle anal and perineal massage (no penetration).
Try experimenting with other forms of stimulation that do not involve direct penile stimulation:
- external anal massage
- anal contractions
- thighs,butt cheeks, etc.
The idea here is to ratchet up your arousal/ sexual tension anyway possible without direct penile stimulation. As you do these things, become aware of subtle feedback that your body gives you. Can you feel your prostate swell? Do you perhaps sense a tickling or tingling in your anus, scrotum, perineum, abdomen etc? Experiment with deep slow paced breathing using a lower abdominal expansion while you do so. Bear down rectally and as you do so, become aware of any sensations in your prostate and anus.
Note that as important as it is to generate and maintain physical arousal and as pleasant as the results can be, it is possible to over do it as well. Allowing yourself appropriate rest periods between sessions is a critical factor that is often overlooked. Temporary periods of abstinence from the Aneros and masturbation in general can actually produce heightened levels of physical arousal down the line.
Mental arousal involves various methods for consciously generating sexual feelings. Viewing erotic images or pornography, reading erotic literature, listening to sensual music, practicing self hypnosis or simple focusing on your own sexual fantasies will all facilitate the development of a Super-O. Tantric teachings and practices include both physical and mental exercises to increase one's sensual awareness. For men, these teachings also include an emphasis on avoiding ejaculations. It is believed ejaculations deplete the man of his sexual energy and thus terminate his ability to maintain the orgasmic plateau for attaining spiritual growth and enlightenment. Mental arousal may be enhanced by regular practice of this ancient Tantric technique. As most men have, at some time in their life, experienced the "blue balls" effect you understand the heightened level of arousal which results from lack of ejaculatory relief. You can employ this same technique in your own personal journey toward the Super-O, but it takes mental discipline to do so.
An often quoted saying is "Your brain is your largest sex organ" and all your other sensory organs send their signals to the brain for interpretation and reactive instructions. You mind is the elusive states of consciousness entity which directs the responses and it is in this realm you will find your greatest success achieving the blissful Super-O state. It is your own self programming and conditioning which will most readily advance your progress.
A word of caution, the viewing of pornography has been scientifically demonstrated to become a behavioral addiction in a small percentage of the population. For further information on this topic and the specific mechanisms involved with typical addictions see the video series "Your Brain on Porn".
Visualization is the process by which one uses the focus on a mental image for a specific purpose or goal. This technique can be very useful in that (with it) your body may actually coordinate certain responses almost involuntarily. So what kind of images does one use? Generally any image that gets you really aroused and is not distracting.
Proper use of lubricant is very important for several reasons: ease of insertion, overall comfort during use, and proper functioning of Aneros. Both the rectum and the Aneros should be well-lubricated so that the massager glides in easily and is able to move freely throughout the course of the session. Insufficient lubrication can lead to discomfort. If this results, remove the Aneros and reapply lubricant. The manufacturer recommends "ID Glide", which is said to provide sustained lubrication without breakdown. Another well-known brand that works well is "KY". The truth is that the main difference between all of the glycerin containing formulations (most water-based products) resides in their packaging. Many experienced Aneros owners recommend water-based over the oil based (petroleum-based) alternatives.
A great deal has been made of lubrication in the past in the Forum, the truth is that one shouldn’t get too hung up on it. Find a lubricant that’s slick, one that you like, one that “agrees with you”, then apply it and be done with it. Despite all that's been said in the past, almost any decent personal lubricant will suffice, so long as it meets the criteria above. Also see the health caution about other forms of lubrication in the "Misconceptions" section. For more detail on types of lubricants, see Types of Lubricants below.
Pre-lubrication refers to lubricating one’s anus and rectum prior to the insertion of the Aneros. While this may seem like overkill to some, there are two very good reasons for doing this. The first is that no matter how much is applied or how effective the lubricant is, a significant amount of it is generally squeezed off of the Aneros as it makes its way through the anal canal and into your rectum. Secondly, if you are using a water-based lubricant, you may have observed that it dries out on exposure to air. Pre-lubricating establishes a reservoir of lubrication in a fairly contained environment (your rectum). As a result there is little chance of the lube drying out and there's always an adequate supply where it's most needed.
One method of pre-lubricating involves obtaining an infant medicine dropper, available from your neighborhood drugstore. These droppers have a small bulb end that may be removed so that they can be filled and easily cleaned. They only hold about 10ml (2-3 teaspoons), which is all that is required. Pre-lubrication is not strictly necessary, but it affords the Aneros maximum mobility. A generic lubricant applicator or "Aneros" `Marksman` lubricant applicators are good options here as well. As a practical matter a "liquid" lube will tend to be the best choice for pre-lubrication, as it provides for a much easier fill and clean up of an applicator, vs. the thicker gel formulations.
While the application of a "pre-lube" can be performed in almost any position, being on all-fours has often been recommended. In this position the lubricant will naturally flow downward, coating your prostate.
There is continuing discussion in the Forum about the need for any internal (rectal) lubrication. You are invited to read what some members have said in one of the polls - "Lube in the anus or just the toy?" -, you are the ultimate judge about the necessity for internal lubrication.
Lubricating the Aneros
Adequate lubrication of the Aneros is essential for optimum performance and comfort. The Aneros can be responsive to your contractions, your breathing...even your pulse at times. But for this to occur friction must be kept at a minimum. The Aneros should be kept suspended in a fluid environment by the application of copious amounts of lubrication.
Apply a liberal amount of lubricant to the anus (none may be required anally if you've previously pre-lubricated) and to the Aneros Massager. With your finger, move up and down the body of the unit, carefully coating it from tip to base on all sides. Special care should be taken to avoid contacting the abutment arm and tab (P-tab) with lube...these must kept dry at all times. Remember the tab will be outside your body acting as a fulcrum so that the body of the Aneros can pivot and move in and out of your rectum. Avoid contact with the handle as well as it will make it slippery when removal is required.
Types of Lubricants
Personal lubricants come in several different varieties: water-based (containing glycerin or not), oil-based (natural oil and petroleum-based) and silicone-based preparations. All of these products have their pros and cons. It is up to the individual user to evaluate them all carefully before making a decision about which product to use.
1.) Water-based lubricants are by far the most common type of personal lubricants on the market today. The majority of these products all contain glycerin as their primary constituent. The standard forms of Wet™, ID Glide™, and KY™ are all water-based (water-soluble) lubricants. All of these products are virtually identical except for their packaging. Glycerin is a substance that is considered "GRAS" or generally regarded as safe for human consumption. Glycerin has been used for decades in everything from confections to pharmaceutical preparations AND surgical lubrication.
Within recent years a new generation of products has emerged that are glycerin-free. Some of these are so-called "natural lubricants" that use botanicals such as guar gum, locust bean and aloe. Others use propylene glycol as a principal component (not to be confused with ethylene glycol/anti-freeze). One such product, Maximus™, is manufactured in Great Britain and, while it is highly effective, is also more expensive than most water-based products. Aneros produces Marksman™ which also utilizes propylene glycol.
The advantages of water-based lubricants: They are readily available, offering a quick and easy clean-up, producing no residue. The chemical formulations are generally simpler with fewer compounds to be concerned about. They are the gentler alternative.
The disadvantages of water-based lubricants: More volume is needed for adequate lubrication, material tends to dry out more readily with exposure to air, requiring reapplication, glycerin may have a purgative effect with some individuals inducing peristalsis and cramping and with other individuals a burning sensation. Note: Burning sensations may also be caused by a diet or meal containing strong spices such as pepper or curry.
2.) Many types of natural oils have been used for lubrication, such as almond, coconut, grapeseed, olive, rapeseed, sesame, sunflower, vegetable & wheat oils, shea butter and 'Natural Jelly' have also been used as lubricants. While it is desirable to use natural products, some of these oils are unfortunately inadequate to the task. In choosing a lubricant, one requires a substance that reduces the surface tension of the skin without being appreciably absorbed. Vegetable oils do make the skin feel slippery but do so weakly as compared to glycerin-based (water-based) lubricants. Furthermore, the light oils are absorbed into the skin and tend to readily diffuse themselves. Some users who are into “retaining the Aneros” throughout the day for purposes of continuous massage (vs. an orgasmic experience) have reported good results using the heavier natural oils such as coconut oil, shea butter and the mixed compound called 'Natural Jelly' (1 tsp. beeswax, 3 tbsp. almond oil). It must be remembered that this is in many ways a less demanding application however. (The device remains fairly static as compared to the dynamic movement involved in the standard Aneros session.)
There is a general consensus in the user community that petroleum-based oils (mineral oils) are not appropriate lubricant choices. Although some have reported success with the Aneros and oil-based products (Vaseline and Albolene cream for example), these products could be absorbed into the skin, making their use questionable for safety reasons.
The advantages of natural oil-based products: They are generally inexpensive and free of potentially toxic chemicals. They are generally readily available through health food stores and do not dry out as readily as the water-based lubricants.
The disadvantages of oil-based products: They are readily absorbed into the skin, cleanup may be difficult and staining of clothing and furniture is likely. While they do not "dry out" per se, they are absorbed, requiring more frequent application than a silicone lube. Lastly, some individuals may be allergic to these products, which may cause irritation or worse.
3.) Silicone formulations represent the newest technology in personal lubrication. Silicone is a material found in many hand creams and industrial lubricants. One of its main physical properties is that it is water-repellent (silicone sprays are used for waterproofing camping equipment for example). In cosmetic preparations, it is actually used to keep the skin’s own natural moisture in. ID Millennium and Wet Platinum are both silicone-based products.
The advantages of silicone-based products: They are extremely slick and long-lasting, they resist drying out, and very little is needed to provide good lubrication.
The disadvantages of silicone-based products: Cleanup is more difficult with soap and water, a residual coating may linger, and differing formulations have a host of chemicals with unknown long-term health risks, potential allergic reactions, and highest cost per application.
There have been extensive discussions in the forum regarding the types and use of various lubricants. All users should think carefully about making a choice of lubricants for potential safety and health risks. Even many of the "natural" products that are available bear the labels "FOR EXTERNAL USE ONLY". Bear in mind that the rectal canal is a moisture-permeable membrane capable of transmitting soluble chemicals into the bloodstream. Therefore, any liquid or semi-liquid compound introduced into the rectum has the capacity for being absorbed by the body. At the present time, there are no long-term studies on the potential health risks surrounding the repeated use of many of these substances. You are cautioned to exercise reasoned judgment with your use of any of these products.
Aneros users are advised against the use of heating or warming oils due to the sensitive nature of the tissues inside the rectum.
The three keys to easy insertion are lubrication, position and a relaxed anus.
The best positions for insertion are:
- lying on your side with lower leg straight and upper leg bent to your chest. Cock your hips so your butt opens up.
- on a toilet
- lying on your back with a pillow under your lower back, legs bent and drawn up to your chest.
To orient the Aneros correctly, position the tip against your anus. If you are lying on your back, the curvy handle is towards the mattress and the p-tab is toward the ceiling. Another clue is that all Aneros models have a gentle curve. When the Aneros tip is positioned at your anus, the curve should be pointing towards your front. If the Aneros was a slightly bent finger, the nail side would be toward you back.
As you begin insertion, push out with your rectum as though forcing on the toilet. This is a trick to open your anus.
If your anus does not feel receptive to the intruder, gently massage it with the tip of the Aneros or your finger. Mix in slow relaxing breathes. Take it very slowly. As your anus releases and eases open, gently press the Aneros in. Do not shove or force. That would lead to pain, which can be a session-buster, and possibly to anal bleeding.
About half way, the muscles of the anus and rectum draw the Aneros in by themselves. The Aneros will be positioned against the prostate with the perineum abutment pressing firmly against the perineum acupressure spot.
Use the handle to position the p-tab against the perineum acupressure spot, (your "sweet spot").
Keep the perineum area dry to ensure the p-tab won’t slip from the perineum acupressure spot.
When the Aneros is fully inserted the tip should be in contact with your prostate, the upper end of the body with areas of your rectum, the lower end with your anus and the P-tab with your perineum simultaneously. For men under 40 this is often a new sensation. For those that are 40+, although they may have some familiarity with these feelings from their yearly digital exam from the doctor, the gentler but more consistent pressure of the Aneros will feel different.
It is OK if you do not feel the Aneros contacting your prostate. That does not mean it isn't. It just means that you don't yet have the sensitivity to detect it.
If you feel anal tension with insertion, do not engage in large-scale contractions. Generally the situation is improved by relaxation before, during and after insertion.
There may be some discomfort for men who have had little or no experience with anal play. It takes time to become accustomed to the sensation of anal penetration, even on this small scale. This may be only a matter of minutes or it may take several sessions.
Prior to insertion a warm bath or shower that includes some gentle anal massage is a great way to release the stress of the day and prepare yourself this kind of activity. Anything that increases your arousal, erotica, or some small scale masturbation, is a great way to encourage anal receptivity.
Once you begin introducing the Aneros, make sure that you do so slowly, stopping whenever you need to, allowing your sphincter an opportunity to accommodate. It is not uncommon to have anxiety at this point. Anxiety can cause anal tension, which can increase discomfort. A deep cleansing breath is often helpful. Inhale deeply and exhale slowly and deeply allowing this stress to leave your body. Try practicing some deep, slowly paced breathing. Generally after 15 to 20 minutes the sensations of discomfort will slowly dissipate. If they do not, try holding out for 5 to 10 minutes more, discontinuing the session thereafter.
In some instances it will take repeated attempts over several weeks for your body to become accustomed to this kind of penetration. If after two weeks there is still a great amount of discomfort associated with inserting the Aneros, particularly of the urge to purge kind, you may want to experiment with a different form of lubrication. Be advised that some people have sensitivity to certain types of personal lubricants. (See lubrication)
Inserting the Progasm
Inserting the Progasm presents particular challenges because of its size. Go very slowly. You can easily tear your anus if it is not properly prepared (see "Preparation", "Lubrication" and "Relaxation").
First, correctly orient the curved tip of the head toward the front of your body. When inserting, use a scooping motion to follow the axis of the curves in alignment with the axis of the anal sphincters. During initial insertion, the P-tab arm will be held closer to your scrotum such that the head goes in straight. As the head goes in you can slowly rotate the Progasm away from your scrotum to make the scooping motion. At this point, the head may get caught on the inner anal sphincter, if this occurs gently rock the massager forward whilst pushing in with your hand and pushing out with your rectal muscles as if having a bowel movement. Once the head is past the inner sphincter your Progasm may get caught in front of or underneath your prostate, which can be painful. To avoid this, again gently rock the Progasm in small movements front to back whilst slowly pushing in. This allows the head to find its way past the inner anal sphincter and prostate. When it is inserted correctly the anus should pull the P and K-tabs up against your body with no discomfort or pain.
Softening the P-tab
You might want something to cushion the P-tab as men often find its aggressiveness can cause soreness, which is a session-buster. Here are a few solutions that have worked for others :
- a single toilet tissue folded in half 3-4 times
- the corner of a washcloth or other fabric swatch
- the cut off tip of an old leather or cotton glove
- a small rubber or vinyl cap
- a squeeze bulb from a medicine dropper
- also see Modifications to the Aneros
Relaxation is very important for a number of reasons:
- You will need to relax your anal sphincter muscles to comfortably and easily insert your massager.
- Relaxing the body's muscles and releasing tension will make it easier for you to focus your mental energy on responding to the subtle sensations from your prostate.
- Relaxing the body aids in calming your mind, which in turn, aids in the ability to maintain mental focus.
- A relaxed mind and body are more receptive to the small initial sensations you will amplify into the Super-O.
- A relaxed body can more easily generate P-waves.
- Relaxing your mind and body removes distracting elements that can be obstacles to reaching the Super-O.
On relaxing your anal sphincter muscles : Using a well-lubricated finger or the tip of a warmed Aneros massager, try massaging the rim of your anus in slow circular motions, occasionally spiraling inward to the anal opening and testing your receptiveness to penetration. Back off if you still feel tightness and continue the massage until you sense the muscles relaxing enough to easily insert your massager.
On relaxing the body: Try taking a soothing hot bath, shower, soak in a hot tub or jacuzzi spa to help your large muscles relax and release their tension. Enjoying time with a soothing cup of hot chamomile or other herbal tea may also be beneficial. A single glass of wine or beer can also be of benefit, but no more than this, as alcohol and other drugs can be counterproductive. Self-hypnosis and belly breathing techniques to relax the body and mind are also effective.
On relaxing the mind: Practitioners of Yoga, Qigong or self-hypnosis can effectively utilize those skills in accelerating the relaxation phase. Relaxing, meditative music, recorded nature sounds or music from the member suggested play list may also help you get into a relaxed state of mind as well as other exercises. Freeing yourself of mind noise is essential for entering the Super-O zone and sustaining the pleasure states encountered.
You should allow sufficient time, approximately 10-20 minutes, for your body to become accustomed to your massager in place. During this time, you should employ meditative deep-breathing exercises by slowly inhaling for 4-8 seconds, holding this breath for a moment and then slowly exhaling for 4–8 seconds. As you are relaxing and breathing, release all tensions and expectations with each exhalation. As you continue to relax and before beginning any contractions, focus on the sensations in the anal area around the anus itself, how the rectal walls feel, the slight pressure from the P-tab on the perineum and of course any feelings from your prostate itself. This initial relaxation period may also allow other areas of the body to speak to you in response to the presence of your massager.
One of the key elements to learn in the path to the Super-O lies in focused breathing coupled with the proper anal/rectal/abdominal contractions. It is the synergy of these stimuli that enables you to build larger and larger P-waves that create the Super-O. What is absolutely essential is learning your body's own unique rhythm for achieving that synergy. There are two types of breathing patterns often used to help generate physical arousal. Deep breathing, as explained in the relaxation section above, is used to relax the body initially. Soon after relaxation has been achieved a valley breathing technique may be employed to stimulate the abdominal and pelvic areas.
This kind of exercise (valley breathing) takes the form of breathing into and expanding the lower abdomen, with a gentle "quivering-wave" like motion, almost as if one is sobbing. It’s important to stress that this is not about hyperventilation, but rather about getting yourself excited and in tune with sensations that are abdominal-rectal in origin. At some point you start to introduce gentle anal contractions as well, contracting and holding as you breathe in this way.
There is a third breathing technique known as the "Breath of Fire", which is basically a series of three breath cycles comprised of 15 pants per cycle as demonstrated in this video. This technique is for a short term energy burst and should be limited to the three cycles so you don't hyperventilate.
The contraction exercises are fundamental to effective use of your massager. How many and how long you hold will be determined by your own self-discovery. While you are experimenting with these contractions, engage in some rhythmic breathing. The important thing is to take your time and remember if it doesn't happen for you in this session it will in another.
Once you are fully relaxed and building awareness of the sensations inside your rectum, you are ready to begin the contraction exercises. Continue to breathe slowly and begin to contract the sphincter muscle in time with your breathing. Inhale deeply as you contract the muscles and exhale as you relax. Repeat this exercise 20 - 30 times. Start with the manufacturer’s instructions to begin with, but do so loosely, don’t get hung up on following them to the letter. But if these exercises don’t get the involuntaries happening, don’t sweat it. After the warm-up start by establishing a base level contraction. This will be a low level contraction that you maintain throughout the entire session. Stay with this contraction for several minutes before introducing any harder contractions, just so you can become accustomed to what it feels like, it may feel different later when you return to it from a higher magnitude contraction and you want to be able to recognize that. Also, as opposed to just alternating between anal and rectal contractions try also using them simultaneously. When doing them simultaneously be sure to use the rectal contraction in a more measured way. Why? Because a rectal contraction involves a larger muscle group which can over-power the anal contraction completely. So explore some fine-tuning with it. Again, the idea here is not really to get a workout per se as much as it is to generate sensation. Here’s the key; pleasurable sensations trump all. If you learn to generate pleasurable sensations through anal, rectal, and abdominal contractions and rhythmic breathing and learn to magnify and center these sensations through mental focus, you will find the Super-O. In this way, creating the Super-O is much less a mechanical process of thrusting or slamming yourself to an orgasm (penile centered mindset), as it is a dance between mind and body. Newbies are encouraged to explore and have fun with it, and be a little less directed in the beginning.
Keep in mind that the excursion distance moved from in stroke to out is really very small. It is important to understand that large-scale movements do not necessarily trigger the Super-O response at all. If that were the case, dildos and such would have been used for this purpose long ago. No, instead it is the subtle yet precise movements of the Aneros, coupled with an open and adequately aroused subject that makes for success.
Again it bears repeating; pleasurable sensations trump all. If you learn to generate pleasurable sensations through anal, rectal, and abdominal contractions and rhythmic breathing and learn to magnify and center these sensations through mental focus, you will find the Super-O.
The following exercises are an illustration of how several techniques may be combined to encourage involuntaries and generate sensation. Start with a set of 16 moderate contractions holding for about 10-12 seconds each. Inhale slowly into the lower abdomen (vibrating your diaphragm) while contracting and exhaling with the release. When releasing these contractions be sure to come back to the base level contraction for about 4 seconds. Be observant of any sensations or twitching that may arise (this may occur during or after the moderate contraction. If any sensation is observed, allow yourself to enjoy it no matter how subtle it is. (Pleasure itself is arousing...so don't ignore it). After this first set try adding another technique to the mix for the next set. While holding this contraction, introduce a rectal contraction as well (this is a bearing down – pushing out contraction). Anal and rectal contractions work antagonistically, one pushing in the other pushing out, very often interesting sensations can be developed by working these techniques simultaneously. Again, between contractions always come back to the base level (that is, so you're never letting go entirely) and when you do be observant of any sensations that may come your way. Alternatively you may exhale with contraction and inhale with release. Mixing up techniques like this is a great way to get acquainted with your body in new way and generate sensations at the same time.
VERY IMPORTANT - If you feel something building don’t hammer it with a strong contraction. Instead approach it very gingerly with a slightly upgraded anal contraction for example. It’s almost like fishing; when you feel a nibble you don’t want to pull the hook out of the fish’s mouth before it’s really set. The same goes for the Super-O. When you feel encouraging sensations, think more in terms of supporting them or bolstering them with some supportive contractions and rhythmic breathing. Once the orgasm is imminent, you may employ stronger contractions to constructive ends. Try holding your breath slightly and bearing down (only hold for 10 seconds or so, anoxia is not the goal), OR bear down (rectal contraction) with a slight anal contraction while executing some short panting (quick inhalation and exhalation but with very little air exchanged so you are neither hyperventilating or becoming anoxic, while doing this expand your lower abdomen as if filling with air. You get a couple of things from this, lower abdominal expansion (which gives a nice full sensation in the pelvic region), vibration of the diaphragm, and anal/ rectal tension, which creates more sensory input at the same time.
Note: This exercise strengthens the anal sphincter and increases the blood circulation to the region. Increased circulation results in fresh supplies of oxygen and constant purging of toxins. Thus, these exercises will not only tone the lower tracts but cleanse them as well. Sexual sensitivity will also increase. Now you can begin to touch your body wherever you feel sexually sensitive, these actions will add to your pleasure. However, avoid stimulating the penis at this time, as it may cause ejaculation.
Concentrate your mind on your prostate. Slowly contract your anal sphincter to about one fourth to half of full contraction strength and maintain this level of contraction. Holding this level of contraction is difficult - anal muscles will quiver and may spasm causing a vibration that corresponds to the muscle’s involuntary movements. This dynamic interaction between the voluntary and involuntary muscular contractions is important in achieving hands-free ejaculation.
Because the Aneros massager is suspended unstably within the anal canal, the slightest muscular action and even the pulsing of blood vessels infiltrating the anal canal and surrounding the prostate is detected by the Aneros and directly transmitted to the anal canal, prostate and the perineum acupressure point. These sensations are positively relayed back to the anus, and this chain reaction accelerates to a nearly explosive point. During this session, it is possible to adjust the location of the Aneros by slightly increasing or decreasing your contraction strength. In this manner, you may position the Aneros Massager to a point most preferable to you. In conjunction with the degree of pressure applied to the perineum acupressure point, all points along the front wall of the rectum from the anus to the ampulla of vas above the prostate will reflect different types and degrees of pleasurable sensations. This area is a treasure trove of erogenous stimuli.
Note: At this time, lubricant plays an important role to keep your Aneros massager as slippery as possible so that the massager’s movement is easily effected by the anal sphincter’s actions.
Make a strong contraction of your anal sphincter. As you increase the strength of the contraction, your massager will be drawn deeper toward the prostate as it moves in a stroking motion with increasing pressure. The perineum abutment accordingly increases the pressure on the perineum acupressure point. During this practice you can lie on your back and push your hips down against a surface if you like. This helps the Aneros add more pressure against the prostate and the perineum.
Now your body is ready to achieve a new kind of orgasm.
Some men find using the above noted contraction exercises to awaken their prostate to be ineffective. A different, counterintuitive approach, which has worked for some men, is to take an entirely passive role and literally do nothing. After the Aneros is inserted and you are in a comfortable position in a dark room with no distractions, lie still. If you know how to breathe from your belly, (diaphragm breathing) do that, but regular breathing is fine, too. Consciously, let go of all muscle tension, relax, just let yourself go limp. It may feel like the Aneros wants to slip out, don't fret and don't try to hold it in, it won’t fall out. Just lie there for 30 minutes. If you don’t feel anything, quit the session and don’t be concerned, this process takes time, be patient. Practice this technique every day for at least three days. The objective is to let the Aneros signal to you by tingling and/or small pleasure waves. When that happens, don’t jump in with contractions or thrusting your hips. Continue to relax and remain passive, the sensations may continue to build all by themselves, even reaching explosive orgasmic levels.
Different positions are great for changing things up and adding variety to any sexual encounter, including those with the Aneros. Since the Aneros is a hands-free device, driven by your own anal-sphincter muscle contractions, no manual intervention is needed to use it. This means that the Aneros can be used in a variety of positions, with endless variations of those listed below to suit your comfort level. Have fun experimenting with them to discover what you like best. You can view the membership poll - "What has been your most effective-favorite position?"- to read what some of the other guys' are doing.
On your back
When on your back, prevent the handle of the Aneros from contacting the bed (which might impede its motion). Try placing a pillow under your upper buttocks so that your lower butt is suspended slightly. (See Cutting off the handle for a modification to the Aneros that can avoid that problem).
Also, beginners may want to ensure that bedding doesn't lie on their penis. The bedding could provide unwanted penis stimulation, redirecting sensation from the Aneros to the penis, short-circuiting the novel pleasure.
Try these variants
- knees bent and feet flat on the bed.
- knees bent and splayed outward while soles of feet nearly touch.
- knees bent and legs raised on pillows, cushions or an ottoman.
- spread eagle
- legs together
- knees bent, feet flat on the floor while performing a pelvic rocking motion.
Lie on your front, legs straight or spread eagle.
Lie on your front with cushions to create elevation.
Kneeling on all fours (doggie style)
Kneeling on floor while torso is draped atop bed.
- In this position more effort is needed to hold the Aneros in place during contractions due to the effects of gravity, this extra effort may induce involuntary contractions to occur sooner.
- This position allows for a greater range of hip movement, side to side and front to back.
The Aneros company believes the most effective position is a side position. Lie down on your right side (for some reason people seem to prefer right over left) and pull your left knee up towards your waist. Both legs should be bent, with the left more so. It’s a very easy and comfortable position to assume. The same position can be done while lying on the left side. However, some experimentation may be required in order to find what is most effective for you.
Sitting on a well cushioned chair, sofa or bed. Note: In this position the mobility of your Aneros massager is likely to be severely restricted and thus impairing its effective massage action. Also, if the tail/handle is still in place, this usage may cause discomfort from the added pressure of being pushed against the body. This can also force the P-tab &/or K-tabs to apply excessive pressure at those acupressure points.
Standing with body straight and walking around can move your massager by the grinding action of your butt cheeks, sending vibrations and gentle stroking action to your prostate.
Standing 3-4 feet from the foot of your bed and let your hands fall to the edge of the bed while your feet stay in place. At this point your body is at an angle with the bed. Then lower yourself down almost as if you were doing a push-up and grind or bow downward with your pelvis at the same time, additional sensations may be generated by moving your pelvis in a circular motion.
Standing with body straight, knees slightly bent while you slowly rock your pelvis forward and back, sending vibrations and gentle stroking action to your prostate as shown in this video.
Things to avoid
- Don't touch your penis at anytime during these sessions. It will only redirect neural impulses away from the area you are trying to stimulate. (If you're finishing off afterwards or if you're discontinuing your session and want to finish with a penile orgasm, then remove your massager and go for it!)
- Don't use anything, such as alcohol to excess, that will dull your senses, you will need to be focused and alert to what comes your way.
- Vibrators will mask the sensations that you're looking for. You're dealing with specific focused neural impulses. Using a vibrator in search of this Super-O is like using a chain saw to cut butter. It obliterates everything. However, as a means of magnifying a traditional penile orgasm with ejaculation with the Aneros in place, go for it.
- Put a day or two between your sessions, your body will use this time to recharge, and you will find the accumulated arousal that comes from this is put to good purpose in your next session.
Patience and frustration are obviously related, one being the flipside of the other. Being patient is about being open to new and perhaps very subtle sensations without expectation of outcome. Thoughts like, “I should be there by now…”, “why isn’t this working…”, and “I’ve got to make this happen…”, will all be counterproductive. Instead the thought process should be more like, “…this feels really nice, I wonder what happens if I add this or that…”, or “I don't think I feel anything with this maybe I'll try that...”. Look at it all as a sensual journey, one with several destinations, but don’t get hung up on going to any one place, just let the path unfold on it’s own as much as possible.
When patience is exhausted the result is frustration. Frustration results in a loss of focus and with loss of focus one generally ignores the subtle sensations that you need to explore to reveal the Super-O.
Of the two factors, discomfort is the showstopper, that is, you cannot nor should you work through it. Most times it is only effectively resolved by laying off for a while. Your level of patience and/or frustration however is really a state of mind and depending on your mental discipline, it can sometimes be worked with. But if you can’t get your attitude together, again stop and revisit this all another day.
Length of sessions
The journey to the Super-O can be very time consuming. If one is an advanced user, that is, an individual who is capable of having Super-O's at will, there are no time parameters, as he has already learned much about the Aneros experience and has worked through his time management issues. The manufacturer suggests 30 minute sessions, 2 to 3 times a week. However, for the newbie, who is still in search of this experience, 30 minutes may not be enough time to become sufficiently relaxed and establish good mental focus. It is suggested that newbies spend no more than 60 to 90 minutes in a session. In all cases though, the factors that will determine the duration of any given Aneros session will be one's level of comfort and one’s level of patience and/or frustration.
For those who are passed the initial discomfort of introducing the device, it is important to note that pain or discomfort, particularly of the unremitting type, is a sure sign that it is time to terminate your session. So if you’ve been going at it for an hour or two and you find yourself getting sore, stop and resume your exploration another day. The truth is you will not find the Super-O if you are in any discomfort anyway; it’s a distraction, so stop and resume at another time.
In summary, the duration of an Aneros session should be established by one’s physical and mental state. If you are feeling good and enjoying the ride, stay with it as long as you wish. If however, you are experiencing discomfort or becoming frustrated consider instead discontinuing the session and revisiting it on another day with fresh body and spirit.
The Aneros is made of non-porous FDA approved materials and can easily be cleaned with hot, soapy water. Your Aneros should be cleaned before and after every usage. An additional level of sanitary cleaning may be obtained by using an anti-bacterial soap, followed by a thorough rinsing to ensure no soap residue remains. This may be followed by an alcohol or 10% bleach solution wipedown and a thorough drying before putting your device away.
The Aneros device will function best when its mobility is maximized. Your rectum should be clear of fecal matter. See the cleaning your rectum section above for more detailed information.
A mild bath soap may be used to clean the anus and surrounding areas, be sure to rinse the area thoroughly before attempting to insert your massager, even mild bath soaps can be bowel irritants if they get into the rectum.
Putting it all together
It is important to remember that the journey from the penile centered approach to the non-ejaculatory orgasm or Super-O is really an evolution of sorts. Turning away from the powerful sensations that are the precursors of an ejaculation to the relatively subtle sensations that characterize the beginnings of a Super-O is not easy, particularly if you're not familiar with what these non-ejaculatory precursors feel like in the first place. Where do you feel them? What do they feel like? They may be felt in the anus, rectum, perineum, pelvis and abdomen (think of a midpoint between ones navel and the pubic bone, then deep within the body cavity). The sensations themselves may be described as tickling or tingling at times and as they follow through to Super-O a deep and intense surging. A very subtle form of these sensations may be perceived once in a while when one is yawning or perhaps stretching. Both of these activities involve contraction of the abdomen and diaphragm and may even have some deeper pelvic interaction as well.
The manufacturer has emphasized an approach that seeks to encourage involuntary contractions through systematic exercise and the consequent fatigue of the anal musculature. Ostensibly it's a means of kick-starting the non-ejaculatory response. The idea is that once started these involuntary contractions initiate a positive feedback loop with the aid of the Aneros' abutment tab at the perineal acupressure point, the "sweet spot", which propagates a Super-O. The fact is however, that it’s not necessarily so, even a good salvo of involuntaries may be insufficient to take the positive feedback loop to a truly self-propagating level and thus generate a Super-O. More is required to initiate and sustain the non-ejaculatory response. This is where playing with your various tools or techniques come into play. What are the tools? Anal contractions, at low, moderate and hard levels, rectal contractions, lower abdominal contractions, breathing (valley and vibratory breathing) and last, but most importantly mental focus. Mental focus is without a doubt the passport to the Super-O. With mental focus you can coalesce the many disparate pleasure sensations created with the techniques outlined above into one wave and ride that wave into a Super-O. To a certain extent it’s about directing your attention to the proper places, while at the same time increasing your level of arousal. You want a specific formula, but experience has shown that users are far better off when they explore on their own with the techniques suggested rather than with any kind of rigid formula. Why? In part because there are subtle differences in how we are all wired; position and degree of sensitivity of the perineal acupressure point and the prostate are both factors that can have influence on how much of what works when. But just as importantly it’s because people end up getting too hung up on following instructions. If one becomes too cognitively engaged, he ends up ignoring what’s happening on a sensory level and then all of a sudden, he is lost. This all involves time, patience and self-discovery and most of all having a solid commitment to creating an orgasm in a totally new way.
Did you know that...
- While the Aneros can be used to increase pleasure and stamina in traditional sex, it can also give you multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms (Male Muliple Orgasm - MMO).
- Learning MMO might take weeks or months. Mysteriously, some men learn quickly, some take longer. But, the journey is always worth it.
- Sessions should always be in a place and time where you feel secure and private
- Newbie sessions should typically be between 60 and 90 minutes, once or twice a week
- It is best to abstain from ejaculation within 24 hours of a session. Some say it is best to end a session without ejaculation, for training purposes.
- You should avoid penis stimulation during the session, to shift your consciousness to the subtle but powerful alternative eroticism available in MMO.
- You need to be seriously relaxed during a session to notice what is happening. You cannot force pleasure.
- You MUST adequately lube. See the Types of Lubricants for alternatives.
- You cannot accelerate the process by using strong contractions. Strong contractions are counterproductive. Either hold gentle contractions, or, don't focus consciously on contracting, and just follow the subtle pleasure.
- You need to be mentally aroused. You need to let go, and allow yourself to indulge in pleasuring yourself. Use your mind to get as aroused as you can.
- You need to be physically aroused, but not in the traditional sense. You do not need an erection, and should leave your penis out of the festivities. Instead, give your other erogenous zones lots of liberating attention, for example, your thighs or nipples.
Milestones are progress indicators in ones journey with the Aneros. It is important to note that each journey is a unique and personal experience. All of these milestones may not apply to everyone. Some men may whip right through them without realizing what they are, while others will skip many of them altogether. Every man’s pace with this is different; some will accelerate and then plateau, while others will move slowly through them savoring each achievement. Regardless, the journey is well worth it. Again, everyone’s experience is unique, so the order presented here is an approximation. Where you land is the luck of the draw.
- First insertion
- No P-tab discomfort when relaxed
- No internal discomfort when relaxed
- No P-tab discomfort when contracted
- No internal discomfort when contracted
- Generally comfortable when inserted and relaxed
- Observation of slight good feelings
- Slight sense of leaking
- Slight sense of needing to urinate (contact with prostate)
- Identifiable contact with prostate
- Doing a set of contractions comfortably
- Holding light sphincter contractions
- Integrating deep breathing
- Definite leaking produced by contracting
- Definite pleasure produced by contracting
- Definite feeling of contact on prostate
- Identification of "sweet spot"
- Pleasure at "sweet spot"
- No longer believing that "...this model doesn't fit me..."
- Arousal amplification by vocalization, breathing, manual stim of secondary erogenous zones or held contractions.
- Observation of slight involuntary contractions
- General pleasure throughout session
- Successive P-waves
- Rock hard erection
- Pleasure at voluntary pelvic thrusting
- Integrating pelvic thrusting and contracting
- Large muscle quaking (no pleasure)
- Continuous internal pleasure
- Definite sense of ongoing subtle involuntary contraction
- Sense of pleasure caused by blood pulse internally
- Significant large muscle quaking with pleasure
- Real excitement at thought of next session
- Sustained pleasure during sessions
- Pleasurable tingling in pelvic regions outside of sessions
- Ability to grow pleasure outside of sessions
- Ability to leak outside of sessions
- Sense that the Aneros is satisfying a special prostate "itch"
- Very significant pleasure during sessions
- Moaning during sessions
- Sense of arousal moving toward something
- Surprise attack of very serious pleasure
- Involuntary clamping, without sense of climax
- Involuntary clamping with hint of climax
- Involuntary clamping with definite feeling of light orgasm (Mini-O)
- Ability to maneuver the Aneros to control placement of pleasure internally
- Intensely pleasurable involuntary clamping that is clearly a Dry-O
- Chain reaction Dry-Os (O-zone)
- Disbelief that this can actually be for real
- Very deep orgasm distinctly centered in rectum: anal orgasm
- Extremely intense prostate orgasm
- Dry orgasm without Aneros (chair orgasm)
- Aneros moving distinctly on its own, creating unexpected pleasure
- Aneros moving in long strokes (auto-f***), creating intense pleasure
- Unexpected extremely strong orgasm that knocks the reality out of you: Super-O
- Continuous Super-Os directed at different parts of the body
- Full body Super-O
- Multiple, sequential full body Super-Os
- Ability to have Super-Os on demand